I know you want to feel confident being yourself.
Girl, your “kind and helpful” tank is bone dry.
Being around people is not supposed to be this draining.
I’m here to change that!
You want relationships where
you feel relaxed around people
can drop the worry of being liked
and show up as your authentic self
Hey, I’m Vicki.
Ugh! Hustling for approval sucks.
I can’t believe everything I did to make things work in relationships! Living with a ton of fear, obligation and guilt every day is freaking depressing dude!
For so long I was too scared to show up. I was convinced I would be rejected and judged.
But…I found my way out of the people pleasing trap thank god!
And I can get you out too!
Who I do my best work with
People pleasers
who are exhausted trying to be perfect in their relationships. (Yes, I work with perfectionists too!)
who are eaten up by resentment, but don’t know what to do with their inner anger.
who are fed up with biting their tongues and only feeling safe enough to vent to themselves in the shower!
who just want someone to ask how THEY are doing for once!
Somehow you got the message (thanks early childhood experiences!) that it was your responsibility to make things peaceful and happy in relationships.
Wake up girl!
You’ve held up shit by yourself long enough!
Let’s figure out who YOU are and what YOU want and then get YOU to authentically live it out!
How I make the magic happen!
My secret sauce has two, well, three main ingredients –
Mindfulness
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Not familiar with IFS?
Go here to get started!
Nervous System regulation (a fancy way of saying “techniques to calm the f*ck down”)
If you want to bust through stuck places and stop living on autopilot then this power trio does the job.
Fighting and criticizing your way through change never works, but these approaches do!
My clients continually say,
“I have never thought about it like that before!”
And from that clarity they move straight into creating calm, confidence and JOY in their lives!
Why I do this work
I’ve never naturally felt part of the group, either in my family (I am sort of the odd one) or with friends. I became a therapist because I wanted to figure out why people did what they did and I wanted to understand myself.
I truly thought I would always
keep myself small
feel terrified to speak up
second guess everything
People pleasing is such a heavy weight and I carried it around for YEARS in ALL my relationships.
But through doing a ton of my own work (cool things I’ve done listed below!) and the 100s of hours spent with clients in my psychotherapy practice, I watched people change shit they thought would never budge. Like speaking up to ridiculous in-laws and standing up to bossy neighbors! Yes girl! Whoo hoo!
I realized if I had someone like me when I was going through all this I could have saved a f*ck ton of time and energy!
Want YOUR time and energy back?
Then get in here!
On MY Terms
A coaching group for women who are
fed up with putting everyone else first.
Some folks like a little peak behind the curtain.
You wanna know who you are going to be working with?
Outside of work life…
I am a nature freak. I annoy the shit out of my husband and dogs when we hike because I have to stop at every fern and take 10 pics. Here’s one! I think its awesome.
I am a dog parent and a HUGE animal lover. I’ve learned more about my heart from rescuing dogs than any other experience or relationship.
I became a drummer in my 40s! I’ve played live with a group of ridonkulously talented ladies several times!
*To date I’ve only played with women rockers and I love it!
That time I rapped at a fundraising gig in my neighborhood. Soooo fun!!!
I got into CrossFit after being a dedicated yogi for…oh…almost 20 years. The switch has fired me up and now I consider myself a badass whenever I show up to a workout!
Other info in case you’re interested!
Education
- State University of West Georgia (1999)
- Masters of Education, Community Counseling speciality
- Internship and first job – Metro Atlanta Recovery Residences (90 residential treatment program for addiction)
- Completed clinical hours and 2nd job – Summit Ridge Behavioral Hospital in Outpatient Group Therapy Program
- Psychotherapy Private Practice – 2003-Present
Specialized Training
- Hatha Yoga Teacher Training 200 hour (2002)
- Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy (2003-2004)
- Classical Yoga Teacher Training 200 hour (2008)
- Internal Family Systems L1 & L2 (2012-2014)
- Enneagram Narrative Level 1 (2018)
- Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Training w/ Jack Kornfield & Tara Brach (2019-2021)
Cool things I have done on my search for
meaning, inner peace and confidence
- Meditation Circles at psychic bookstores (early 90s)
- Women’s Holotropic Breathing Circles (late 90s)
- Sweat lodges with Indigenous American Elders (early 2000)
- Multiple Yoga Teacher Trainings (2000s)
- Member of Urban Yoga Ashram (mid 2000s)
- Reiki Level 1 Training (2007)
- Akashic Readings and Past Life Regression (2010s)
- Silent Mindfulness Meditation Retreats – 3, 5 and 10 day (2010-2019)
- Adventure Mastermind for women – travel and outdoor adventure challenges (2023)
- Alternative medicine retreats (2023)